Friday, November 16, 2012

Finding home

I just moved 36 days ago from New York to San Francisco. Other than a semester abroad, I've always been within about an hour's drive to my family and friends. The past five weeks have shown me much turbulence and growth. All I which I welcome and will further reflect on when there is more space...

For now...I share a quickie to show the vulnerability of our adaptiveness, of our discomfort with uncertainty, and how the existential happens in between the aisles of down comforters and shower heads.

Yesterday I went to Bed, Bath, and Beyond in San Francisco. Walking through the aisles I could feel myself get excited and relaxed at the same time. I stared at the things I could buy. I didn't want any of it. But still I gazed eagerly at it all. Drinking it all in. I noticed the distinct sensation of peace I felt, in contrast to what I've been holding since we landed in California.

I remembered shopping with my mom. And my house in New Jersey. I remembered starting my new home in New York. I could see flashes of all those decisions I made for creating numerous homes for the past 20+ years. I suddenly got transported out of the constant new in San Francisco to a place I knew. The familiarity of the lighting, the blue aprons worn by the clerks, the tall stacks of towels, and the awesome 20% off coupons nestled in my wallet washed me over with a soothing feeling. I found myself at home in Bed, Bath, and Beyond.

They say to lean into the discomfort, to get comfortable with the uncomfortable, that uncertainty is the only certainty. It's hard. So yesterday the universe gave me a hug...and I received some relief. I glanced quickly at a sense of stillness. For a moment I didn't have to discover, change, or learn anything - I could just be in midst of flannel sheets and glass tupperware.  And it was amazing.


  1. Oh Stella,
    New York misses you!! I just tried calling you at the only number I have and was disappointed that it's no longer in service but EXCITED to know why. Enjoy San Francisco. I have some good peeps there. Lemme know if you ever need backup. I'll have that town on lock :-)

    Please keep writing and letting us know how the new life is developing :-)

  2. Nice one, there is actually some good points on this blog some of my readers may find this useful, I must send a link, many thanks.

  3. It is good to have most of these articles around to maintain the regular flow of information. Help people that no one could do it later, good work!

  4. Great post Stella. Living in a new place is absolutely exciting but somehow you'll miss all the things you are doing with your former home. I do hope that I won't feel this way once we transfer to amore ec I am looking forward to live in an exciting community :)